tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25159280837011751762024-03-20T15:29:20.923-07:00Journey of a SonOne of many being brought to gloryUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger126125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-17000599950448022942013-12-05T11:44:00.001-08:002013-12-05T11:44:40.061-08:00You Are Responsible For You<a href="http://josephsevier.org/2013/12/05/you-are-responsible-for-you/">You Are Responsible For You</a><br />
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So often, in the attempt to save time, money, and energy we end up sabotaging ourselves.<br />
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Check out my latest blog post at <a href="http://www.josephsevier.org/">www.josephsevier.org</a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-79703948131645010912013-10-28T08:58:00.001-07:002013-10-28T08:58:19.675-07:00Are You Just Talking or Communicating?<a href="http://josephsevier.org/2013/10/28/are-you-just-talking-or-communicating/">Are You Just Talking or Communicating?</a><br />
Communication is more focused on the connection of heart than it is about getting one's point across.<br />
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You are not meant to be just like someone else, you are not meant to just do many things, you are meant to embrace and be the you God created you to be.<br />
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Compatibility is overrated and sometimes really boring!<br />
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Husbands, let me share with you one of the most powerful revelations ever, just because your wife shares a problem with you doesn't mean she wants you to fix it.</div>
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I love animated movies and one of my new favorites has become "Wreck It Ralph." The movie literally moved me to tears. As I was watching it I felt like I was receiving so much revelation. One particular revelation I got smacked with was how many times I try to be like Fix-It Felix in my marriage.</div>
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I can't tell you how many times my wife opens up her heart to share with me how she is feeling about a</div>
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It always cracks me up when doing pre-marital counseling when the guy comes to me and says, "She keeps bringing me issues, but when I give her answers she just gets mad at me." Or, "She keeps asking for my opinion, but when I give it to her she ignores it and goes with what she already thought before she asked me... It drives me crazy!"</div>
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Revelation... most of the time, she is not looking for an answer, solution, or your opinion, she is looking to be heard, felt (emotionally & mentally), understood, or empathized with.</div>
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Yesterday, my wife was in a grumpy mood. She started speaking to me a bit harshly and brought up a little problem we were having. Immediately my Fix-It Felix hat came on and I started blurting out solutions. All the while my wife got more agitated. Then I realized what I was doing and wanted to kick myself in the butt. I immediately switched modes and began to empathize with how she felt. She immediately began to smile.</div>
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Revelation... Sometimes you need to stop trying to fix the problem in order to fix the problem. </div>
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It's not always about fixing the problem by blurting out answers. However, when you sit back, listen, understand, and empathize the reality is that you are fixing the problem. </div>
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She wants to know you are present with her, that you hear her, that you care about what she feels even when she doesn't know how she feels. She does care about your opinion about the wedding decorations, but she cares more about you being fully present in the process. It's not necessarily the answer she is looking for, it is the heart engagement. </div>
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What you have to remember is your wife is a person, not a project. When you're only focused on 'fixing' things you take the heart out of the fixing process. No woman wants to feel like she is an object that is broken having to be fixed by her husband. Rather every woman wants to be cherished, valued, and loved in the midst of craziness and in the good times and the bad. </div>
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Trust me, she doesn't want to remain feeling uneasy that is why she is coming to you. But, sometimes the best way to calm her is just being fully present and engaging her heart.</div>
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We got this men, let's do it!</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-51285265775228895592013-10-16T09:29:00.000-07:002013-10-16T09:29:04.916-07:00It's About How You Say It: Developing A Skillful Tongue<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Has someone ever said something to you that you know was beneficial, but said it in a way that made you feel repulsed?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It's not always about what you say, it's about how you say it. You could say the most positive thing, but said with the wrong tone it could be taken extremely offensively.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However, someone could say something that cuts to your heart, but because of his delivery you did not feel a slight bit of pain as his words surgically removed from your heart what needed to be removed. The difference is a skillful tongue. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Solomon tells us, "A gentle answer turns away harsh wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger," (Proverbs 15:11). You have the power to calm the greatest emotional swell or ignite the greatest emotional fire imaginable by your words and responses. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Have you ever said something to someone and meant it to be a good thing, but it came out horribly? Then you stepped back and thought, "What the heck just happened? I was trying to encourage her." The reason is because the delivery is just as important as the package. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Think about it. When Christmas comes what type of present would you rather open, one that is nicely packaged with colorful paper and a bow or one that is taped together with raggedy old newspaper? We're not talking about content here, we're talking about presentation. Even if the content of the present with the raggedy newspaper is amazingly better than the content of the nicely wrapped one, your instinct is to go with the nicely wrapped one. It's the same with what you say and how you wrap it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It's a tragedy to have such great things to say, but deliver it in a way where no one wants to open it. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Take a moment to reflect on your relationships, leadership, and your conversations. How do you wrap your gifts? Do you take time to think through how you are going to deliver your all important package? </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In your speaking and your responses, take some time to be intentional about how you say what you say. Allow your tongue to become like a skillful writer, a builder, and a calmer of storms.</span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-87010551575121280052013-10-15T09:25:00.000-07:002013-10-15T09:25:20.458-07:00Love Is Patient<div style="text-align: justify;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">That so lofty word, concept, virtue, and fruit of the Spirit. Whatever you want to call it, patience is great to desire, but not necessarily so easy to live out; especially when you live in a microwave culture like we do.</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However, without patience our relationships would cease to exist. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There is a reason that Paul starts off his renown definition of love with: "love is patient," (1 Corinthians 13:4). Patience presupposes hope, expects growth, and assumes the future looks different from the past and present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In my marriage my wife has taught me patience! Trust me there are times I have had to be patient with her, but her patience for me has blown me out of the water. One of the greatest witnesses to her love for me is in her demonstration patience and faith in God's ability to grow us. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If she left me for every time I have lagged on completing a project on the house, being sensitive to her feelings, or even getting to that thing I said I'll take care of later, I would be a lonely man. But, she doesn't just see me for now, she sees who I am becoming, who we are becoming.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Patience presupposes hope and begins with vision. She has a vision for our marriage, knows there are steps taking us forward, but realizes that we have not yet arrived at perfection. In relationships, perfection is seen as an antagonist of patience. Perfection is the finished product, but patience say, "We're getting there." The two seem like enemies, but really are meant to work in tandem. Perfection is the fulfillment of the vision, patience helps us to get there step by step.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Those who lack patience lack vision. If you lack patience it is not because you are not holy enough or even that you don't love enough, it is because it that area, relationship, job, or situation you have lost vision. Love is patient because it always hopes, but hope fails to exist without vision.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In the place you have lost patience I encourage you to ask God for a renewed vision. Is it a friendship? Is it at work? Is it for your family? Love is patient, love never fails, love always hopes because love does not lose sight of what God promised, what can be, what should be, what must be. Love patiently moves towards the fulfillment of the vision with eager expectation and full assurance that it is coming to pass, moment by moment, step by step.</span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-67682784669927269772013-10-12T09:53:00.000-07:002013-10-12T09:53:10.525-07:00Baby Steps: From Knowing To Growing<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Isn't it frustrating to know you need to do something, but just not seem to be able to wrap your life around it?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It is one thing to know something, it is another to actually begin to apply it to your life. If you're like me you know how to get in shape, save money, and eat better. You could probably write a couple ebooks on the subjects. But, if your life was examined would it show what you know?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> things in the world to know how to do something, but not seem to wrap your life around it yet. At least if you are ignorant of something you could say, "I didn't know how..." Even though it is an excuse it at least makes you feel better for the moment. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However, the reason you can't settle with the excuse of not knowing is because you have too many opportunity to know, and you know it! With all the new technology and connection we have at our disposal there is no reason for us to not discover the "how to." But, and this is a big but, technology can't make you 'do.'</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In most cases where you are experiencing frustration I would bet that there is not an information deficit, but a action deficit. Matter of fact, many of us are experiencing an information overload. We know what to do, but the frustration comes because our actions don't seem to follow suit with what we know.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So how do we go from knowing to doing? Start with going from knowing to growing first. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When you have the perspective of growth it is easier to begin to implement things into your life a little at a time. "Doing" sounds so definite. And while there are some things we need to just 'do' in our lives, it's hard for us to make that mental leap. But, if you start with the mentality, "I'm going to begin to grow in this area, baby steps, baby bites, little by little," movement happens. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It's a whole lot easier to take a step than a leap. Don't get me wrong, I love making leaps. But, sometimes it is the baby steps that actually accumulate to far greater lengths than any leap could ever have taken you. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Where in your life do you need to go from knowing to growing? Take a step today.</span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-49921644612360144372013-10-11T09:29:00.001-07:002013-10-11T09:29:26.049-07:00You Are Worth Every Penny... And More<div style="text-align: justify;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When I was in high school I used to love to where my older brother's clothes. I thought he had the coolest style and all his clothes, shoes, hats, and jackets looked so nice. I would constantly ask him if I could wear his stuff and he would constantly tell me, "No! You don't know how to take good care of my clothes. They didn't cost you anything so you don't care if you mess them up." While what he said often hurt my feelings, he was dead right.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">He would work during the summers, getting up around 6am five days a week, and then he</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> would use his money to buy the clothes he liked. But me, I would play during the summers and then ask him I could use his hard earned clothes. And, if I messed them up, I really didn't see it as a big deal. The reason was because I didn't sweat for them, sacrifice my sleep for them, or give up my free time for them. He did.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The point is, until you actually feel the sting of your sacrifice, you tend not to care much for that which you have. Have you ever given someone something for free that you worked hard for? If they trashed it or didn't care about it how did you feel? You see, if it didn't cost you something then it is usually not worth it to take care of it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There is something about your investment that engages your heart, whether it is an investment of time, money, advice, or energy. Most people want things for free, but when given things for free they treat it like it was free. However, when you pay a pretty penny for something, you could be darn sure that you're more apt to care for it. You have to learn to not give for free what should be an investment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">No one wants to give their time to someone who doesn't appreciate it. No one wants to give money to someone who is just going to throw it away. And no one wants to pour energy into something that will not yield an investment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Your time, resources, energy, and effort are an investment. Everyday you make deposits, the question is, "Are they the right deposits?" Are you investing in things or people that are going to yield a worthy outcome. What you have is valuable and you are selling yourself short if you are working all summer only to let someone wear your clothes and trash them.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Whether it is services you are offering or time you're investing it is worth yielding something. If you don't believe that you are worth it or your time is worth it then why should anyone else? You have something great to offer, treat it as such and invest it as such. You are worth every penny, every second, every ounce of energy that you give, and more.</span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-25804767603511820522013-10-10T09:32:00.000-07:002013-10-10T09:32:25.140-07:00Party Like A Rock Star: Celebrating Your Wins<div style="text-align: justify;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I'm not talking about going out and getting hammered or spending hundreds of dollars on craziness, I'm talking about legit, wholehearted celebration. When is the last time you celebrated your life, steps forward you have taken, promotions, or reaching personal goals?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Before my wife and I began to pay off debt it seemed so overwhelming. The thought made me queasy. But we started out little by little, step by step, and made it a point to celebrate along the way. Every month we paid off a card I posted for the world to see and I told everyone around me. It wasn't about bragging, it was about building momentum and even some accountability. The more smaller cards we paid off right away the more inspiration and momentum began to build in my heart, mind, and actions.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However, what stops most people from celebrating in their lives is the lack of knowing what to celebrate. In order for you to celebrate a win you have to identify what the win is, you have to define the win. What are wins in your life? What are considered steps forward to you, both small and large?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Celebration is one of the primary motivators for perseverance. When celebration is not a part of your growth journey then the journey will continually seem arduous, never ending. Without celebration you feel like you are spinning your wheels with no end in mind. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However, celebration is a never the destination. But, it is an amazing landmark. When celebration becomes a destination you tend to stop there, pitch a tent, and stay there; you don't move forward. But, when it is a landmark it refreshes you and infuses you with inspiration for the continued growth for which you are reaching. When it is a landmark celebrations says, "Let's party! I won! And, as I move forward I'm going to keep winning!"</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Take some time today to identity the wins in your life? In your relationship with God or your spouse, on your job, with your team, with your work out plan, what are the wins? Celebrate past wins and identify the wins that you are reaching for, begin to put in a plan to celebrate, and then party!</span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-3999779617567192292013-10-09T09:26:00.001-07:002013-10-09T09:26:07.438-07:00Letting Loose Your Inner Superhero<div style="text-align: justify;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">As a trainer at a restaurant I often ask those I'm training, "Why should we keep you on our team? What sets you apart from the rest of the hundreds of people who come in looking for a job?" I can't tell you how many blanks stares I get. When the stare doesn't seem to wear away I usually press a little harder, "What makes you different? What makes you better, not in value, but in effectiveness then all those you sat with waiting for the interview?" One of the most common responses I get is, "I don't like to talk about myself that way." And one of the most common responses I give is, "If you don't then who will?"</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">We all have to step back and ask ourselves the question, "If I are not confident about what I have to offer why should anyone else be?" As a trainer I seek to instill the greatest amount of courage, confidence, and self-worth in my trainees as possible. The reason is because if they are not confident about who they are then they can not be confident about what they have to offer.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You have seen those people who are trying to sell you something they won't even buy themselves. You know, 'those' people who come up to you with a face that screams, "I know you're going to say no, but please just let me finish my sentence." But, where are you "those" people? Do you realize the goods that you have?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">One of the greatest tragedies is selling yourself short of the greatness that God has placed inside of you. Of course you're not perfect and I'm sure there are tons of areas where you could grow, but there are treasures hidden inside your jar of clay. You have to discover them and let them explode through the jar.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Selling yourself short is not humility and puffing yourself up always comes before humiliation. Both inferiority are superiority are forms of pride. Inferiority says you are less than God has said you are. Superiority says you are more than God says you are. In both cases you are exalting your thoughts and words above what God has declared about you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You see, it's not about making yourself inferior or superior, it is about confidently acknowledging that there has been greatness inside of you since before you were born. God does not make worthless things.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It's time to let loose the superhero inside of you. To be confident in the things that are distinct to you. Don't be afraid to shine, others may depend on it. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It may just be you have not yet recognized and embraced the great things that you have to offer, that others need and want. If this is so, take some time today and write down the answers to these questions, "What do you have to offer? What sets me apart from others? How can I embrace these things?" It's your time to shine!</span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-16514789178363089212013-10-08T09:25:00.000-07:002013-10-08T09:25:10.429-07:00Is It Motivation or Manipulation?<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Are you more preoccupied with fulfilling your dreams and your vision than you are with helping those around you fulfill their's?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When I was in high school I loved sports and I was good. I was freshman MVP for football, league champion as a first year JV wrestler, and I was pulled up to varsity about 1/4 of the way through my freshman season. However, I decided to step back and only continue to play baseball. I remember sitting down and talking with the head football coach and sharing my heart and vision for my future with him. At first he was intrigued, but the minute I expressed that football was not a part of the my vision he blew up on me and became extremely hostile with me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The line between motivation and manipulation is very thin, what keeps you from crossing it is genuine care for those you're trying to motivate. Motivation is about moving their heart in love into a place where they are empowered for the pursuit of vision. Manipulation is about moving their heart however you can to do what you want them to do, when you want them to do it. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Whether it is in a marriage relationship, friendship, mentorship, or you are a in leading position, you have to refuse to allow your personal vision for people to keep you from helping them fulfill their vision for their life. As a leader or in a relationship, genuine care is not expressed by you telling people where they should go, it is helping them discover their God-given identity and destiny.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It is so tempting to tell people about the vision you have for their lives without ever hearing where they want to go and who they want to become. Leadership is not about getting people to fulfill your vision, it is about helping people discover their's. However, when you motivate someone to move forward, more often than not, you too will benefit from it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Nobody wants to be guilt tripped into remaining on a team. Nor does anyone want to remain in a relationship where the other person is trying to make her become someone he wants her to be. But, people will remain on a team if they can see how it can help them advance, if they truly believe their leader is looking out for the team members interest. And, someone will remain in a relationship if he can see how the other is pushing him towards the fullness of his potential.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> Make it your aim today to motivate people to gain a greater vision for their lives and move towards it, not manipulate them into doing what you think is best for the fulfillment of your vision.</span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-50735911748654791482013-10-07T09:13:00.000-07:002013-10-07T09:13:20.764-07:00Marriage Is Work, But It's Worth It<div style="text-align: justify;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When you have grown up in a home where divorce has occurred it is not always easy to have a vision for marriage. At the same time, when you have grown up in a home where your parent didn't argue in front of you at all or you never saw them struggle through things together, it could cause you to have a faulty vision of marriage.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Two of the most damaging things divorce and, what I call, the "happy front marriage" do are prevent the children of the marriage from learning the extremely necessary skill of fighting and witnessing the commitment of love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When you go into a relationship without understanding the cost of commitment you have already set yourself up to frustration. Yes, this is why you may avoid serious relationships. But, the reality is it is not only relationships you avoid, there is a deeper issue. At the core of this avoidance is fear.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Learning to deal with your lack of commitment begins with dealing with your fear. Fear of something better. Fear of failure. Fear of it ending up for you as it did with your parents or your friends. But, the truth is the only way to confront this fear head is by doing the very thing it is keeping you from doing, committing!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You see, when you commit wisely you don't do it blindly. Whether it is a relationship, job, career path, etc. When you commit wisely you have already determined there is a cost and you are willing to do whatever necessary to ensure you can pay it. </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">At the core of this is worth. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Wise commitment moves the heart and mind around the depth of worth it is committing to. And, because the person or thing to which you are committing is of such great value, you are willing to fight for it! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Love is not feeling, it is commitment. Commitment takes work, a lot of it. Sure, you can run all your life, but you better have some good shoes and a lot of money to continually replace them. Either way work is necessary. It takes a lot of work and energy to constantly run. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Stop running and start working. Dig deep, recognize the value of that which you are fighting for. Put your hard had on, get your hands dirty, and strap up your boots. It's time to work for that which matters.</span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-50891954337705538302013-10-05T11:15:00.000-07:002013-10-05T11:15:01.772-07:00The Oppression of Comfort<div style="text-align: justify;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Let's be real. Nobody likes to find themselves in uncomfortable situations. Difficulty is not usually seen as a friend. You probably tend to run from that which makes you feel uncomfortable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However, discomfort is one the greatest catalysts for change. When things are comfortable you usually tend to keep things going the way they are without realizing that you are killing yourself slowly. Comfort, while sometimes necessary, can lead to apathy, being stagnant, and complacency. Comfort, while sometimes necessary, can be the most oppressive thing ever; though it is meant to be healing it can often be enslaving.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You often hear, "If it ain't broke then don't fix it." This is the saying of someone who is satisfied with the status quo. It is the breaking process that allows for something to be taken apart, studied, and improved. If it ain't broke and it's business as usual, maybe you need to break it and make it better.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Sometimes you have to thrust yourself into the uncomfortable in order to thrust yourself into something greater. Discomfort is an indicator that you are doing something you have never done or are stepping into a place you have never been. Whether it is a conversation that you have been avoiding, starting a project you have put off, or pursuing a dream you have suppressed, venturing into the uncomfortable place allows for your capacity to deepen.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">What is crazy is that most times you step into the uncomfortable it becomes your next place of comfort. The minute your capacity begins to stretch you find yourself feeling comfortable at the very place that once caused you dread. You find that the short term experience of discomfort is far outweighed by the long term benefit of a greater capacity, deepened learning, expanded vision, and strengthened courage. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Don't, for the sake of comfort, miss out on some of the greatest opportunities of growth in your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Living and leading by what you see in front of you will never break you through. No great leader or successful person allowed her current reality to keep her from her aspired future. Walt Disney, before anything was ever built, looked at an empty plot of land and envisioned Space Mountain. On the day they cut the ribbon and dedicated the world renown ride everyone sighed because he could not 'see it.' However, when his wife stepped up to the </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Breaking through in your life, whether it is a job, relationship, or pursuing your dreams begins with seeing something that is seemingly not there. In every area of your life you are desiring to grow you need to lay hold of what is still yet to be seen. You have to see the unseen before it is seen by those around you. Paul the Apostle said, "We walk by faith, not by sight... We fix our eyes not on what is seen but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal..."</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When things become difficult and don't seem to pan out the way you visualized do you throw in the towel or plunge ahead. Part of seeing things materialize is expecting the difficulties that will be faced in the process and preparing your heart to push through when they come. How many times did Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. get imprisoned? How many times was he beaten? How many times was he threatened? However, he saw something people had not yet seen. He knew difficulty was coming his way yet he refused to steer off the path. He fixed his eyes </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Today, refuse to be moved by what is in front of you. Rather, determine in your heart and mind to not stop until what God has promised has come to pass. What do you see? Not in the natural, but in the eternal. What is not, but must be? </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Refuse to back down. Refuse to be moved by small set backs. Press ahead, lay hold of it by faith, move forward with every ounce of fiber in your being. No great leader or successful person allowed her current reality to keep her from her aspired future; there is greatness inside of you, don't back down.</span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2515928083701175176.post-67218781725066558952013-10-03T08:54:00.001-07:002013-10-03T08:54:30.184-07:00Stay In Your Lane: Unleashing Your Strengths<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Where are you strong? I'm not talking about muscles, I'm talking about gifts, skills, and calling.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When you take a step back and actually look at your life, relationships, and work, what strengths do you recognize? The reason this is so important is because we tend to focus so much energy on fixing the areas in which we are weak, but all the while we are not maximizing our strengths. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Many of you have bought into the idea that in order to be a great leader, husband, friend, or worker you need to be well-rounded, a Jack of all trades. But that is so far from the truth. Andy Stanley, in his book "The Next Generation Leader," writes, </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Growing up I loved playing football, I loved tackling people. One of the funnest times during a</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> game for me was the kick off, this was the time you could really crack someone. But, as fun as it was trying to hit as many people as possible at full speed there was one rule that needed to be followed by the whole team in order to ensure that the kick off returner would not be able to run it all the way back for a touchdown. The rule was "STAY IN YOUR LANE." By each member of the team staying in their lane the whole field would be covered, but when someone tried crossing into someone else's lane a gap would open up.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Your lane is your "zone," that is the place where you are strongest. Your lane is the place you have trained for, the place where experience is on your side; it's your sweet spot. Your lane is the place where you are the strongest.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When you begin to recognize your strengths you can begin to unleash them and fully contribute to any team or relationship you are in, as well as activate others to step into the lanes around you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It is not until you can actually recognize your weaknesses that you can be most effective. It takes a great leader to know where she is weak and, rather than try to do everything herself, raise up others who are strong in those areas to step up.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In your marriage, if you know you are the organizer and your spouse is the visionary, don't try to force one another into the mold, maximize each other's strengths and learn to work together. At work, if your boss is not good at seeing obstacles in the way of fulfilling a vision, but you are, don't criticize him. Rather, affirm his vision and then come up with a road map of positive solution that can help navigate through the pot holes. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It's time to discover your strengths, unleash them, and empower others to step into the lanes around you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Do people love being around you? I mean, do people get excited when you're around, feel uplifted, and inspired? Or, do they get tense, on edge, and uneasy?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This weekend I went to work and one of my coworkers said to me, "Man, we missed you yesterday. When you work everyone just seems to be in a better mood, the atmosphere is so much more positive." I was blown away by what he said, but I was more blown away by the fact that he was not the first person to tell me something like that. It caused me to ask two questions, "What am I doing that seems to make such an impact? And, do people feel this in all my relationships, teams, and workplaces?"</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I've realize that whenever I go to this particular job, before I even step into the door, I determine that I'm going to have a good shift, no matter what happens, no matter how people treat me, and no matter what people say to me. But, I've also realized that I don't necessarily think this way everywhere I go or with every interaction outside of this job.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Having a positive attitude has been an extremely effective work skill I have developed for this job. However, I need to take it from being a work skill to a life skill. How powerful would it be for every team member I lead, every friend I have, and every person I come into contact with to say, "The atmosphere is so much more positive when you're around?" </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I'm realizing that your presence can either empower or it can drain. You often don't realize how greatly your smile, mood, mannerisms, body language, and words impact those around you. All of these are a direct result of your attitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You may not always like your job, but you can choose to have a good attitude about it. Your attitude is something that you have absolute control over. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You see, when you seem to have a problem with everyone at your work place the problem is usually you. And most of the time, it is with your attitude. All it takes is a small, positive attitude adjustment to drastically impact an environment. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Your attitude starts with a choice and actions follow. Don't wait to be motivated to have a better attitude, have a better attitude and the motivation will follow. When you begin to transform the atmosphere, it empowers others to do the same; one attitude at a time.</span></div>
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