"The Power of a Supportive Spouse..."

This Cake Was Amazing!

I need to confess, my wife is stinking amazing & I have not fully appreciated her as often as I should. First of all, for my birthday on January 17^th she not only was extremely affirming & encouraging, but she made me breakfast, showered me with love, made sure I had an amazing time at Buffalo Wild Wings, bought me a Captain America shirt & made me a Captain America cake!

At the beginning of the month we both started school. I’m working full-time, serving in ministry & taking two classes & she is going to school full-time, serving in ministry & working part time. With major transition comes major growth. For the first couple of weeks it was really hard, mostly because I didn’t take the time to see how I could meet my wife’s needs & how I could support her. But, last week we sat down and communicated.

You know, a lot of problems, arguments & misunderstandings can be alleviated

with loving, sincere & clear

communication.

Take Time To Talk...
And LISTEN....

I didn’t realize how much my wife was sacrificing as she has been supporting me with school, ministry & work. I also didn’t realize how much her support meant to me. Over the last couple weeks when I got home extremely late from class, went to bed extremely late from working on homework or got up super early to spend time with God or study she was there to tell me how proud she was of me. Not only that, but she has loving cleaned up my mess because I rushed out of the house. She has stood in prayer for my strength. And, she has packed me lunch, made dinner & made sure that I have been taken care of. All along, she has also made time to study, spend time with God, clean the house, put away clothes and more!!!

 At the same time, I didn’t realize how much I’m also supposed to stand with her, how much she looks for me to encourage her & how much we need each other. Recently she told she didn’t realize how much she feels emotionally supported by me. When she told me that I realized that I felt the same way about her, but hadn’t verbalized it like I should. I think we often appreciate in our hearts, but don’t allow it to become realized through our words & actions. It is definitely a skills & something to be worked at.

When God said,

“The two will become one flesh,” He meant it.



Bout to Eat BBQ in Texas...



It’s not about me completing the vision I think God has for my life or her just fulfilling the vision God has for her life; it’s about ‘us’ walking with God in the vision He has for our ‘life’ as one. Yes, we’re individuals and we like different things, have different personalities & think different, but He has called us to oneness.

One of the major ways that we walk in that oneness is standing in support of one another, believing for one another, encouraging one another & selflessly serving one another.

This married thing is a team thing.

I need her just as much as she needs me, the minute I think any different I have allowed pride to creep in & stepped into selfishness.

If my wife did not support me in school, ministry or work I know that I definitely would not be able to do it, or at least be able to do it the right way. The support of our spouse is so powerful! We are not only called to stand with our spouses, but to help release him or her into the fullness of God has him or him. Your support may release your spouse into discovering new gifts, pursuing new dreams & conquering fears that held him or her down his or her whole life! 

The support of our spouse could cause us to soar with strength we didn’t know we had,

run with endurance that we never

realized was in us and walk

in confidence as one who

could conquer the

world.

I encourage you to take some time to stop, think about how much he or she may be supporting you without you even recognizing it & intentionally choose to appreciate your spouse in word & action…