Can You Handle The Truth?

When you are afraid of people questioning your life, it is usually not because you don't want people in your business, it is usually because you won't like the answers they find. However, when it comes to you questioning your friends actions, authority, government, your boss, or why management does things the way they do there is no holds bars! Why is that?

Everyone wants people over them to be accountable, but when it comes to someone holding us accountable it's a different story. You want to be the questioner, not the one getting questioned. When you're the questioner you're in a safe place. It's so much easier to show someone else where they need to change in order to become more effective; it's much easier to point of the weaknesses of others. But, are you willing to place your life, actions, attitude, work ethic, and integrity on the stand?

Accountability is one of your greatest assets, but too many view it is their great enemy. Why is it that you see questioning as demeaning when it happens to you, but you see it as necessary for those over you? The first reason is because you can't handle the truth! The second reason is because you have a false understanding of the purpose of questioning and accountability.

When people hold you accountable in your life, actions, and words you need to see it as a good thing. It is for your benefit that people around you, especially those who love you and want the best for you, hold you to a standard through their questions. The process of questioning gets down to the core of who you are, why you are, what you are doing, why you are doing it, and where you can make adjustments to move forward. The real answers may hurt, but understanding them allows you to makes adjustments where needed for optimal growth.

It's happened to you right? You tell a friend, "I really want to save money and not spend so rashly," but the next time you go out you see something you don't really need yet you immediately want to buy it. Your friend looks at you and says, "Remember, you're trying to save money and not buy things you don't need." Then immediately you think and possibly say, "Don't judge me... I can buy anything I want."

"Don't judge me," is sad deflector for, "I really don't want to exercise self control right now." "I can buy anything I want," is a sorry deflector for, "I don't understand that true freedom is manifest in the ability to walk in self discipline." The truth is that you can do anything you want, but anything you want may not necessarily be good for you. The truth is that it is not judgment, it's loving accountability to a standard that you know is necessary for you and those around you. 

The purpose of the questioning and accountability is holding you to the standard that you declared as necessary for your success. It's about you making a commitment and someone assisting you in seeing it lived out. It's not about exposing your flaws, it's about exposing the gaps of what you need and where you are in order to bridge them.

Learn to see questioning as your friend, not your foe. Learn to see accountability as necessary for your growth, not as an oppressive watchman. Your success will always be contingent about having the right questions asked and the right answered lived out. Questioning why you do what you do on a consistent basis is one of the best things for you. Don't be afraid to be questioned, don't be afraid to face the truth; if you want to be successful, determine that you will do both and make adjustments accordingly. You can handle the truth and you will grow because of it!