Grown Men Wanted

Marriage is one of the most powerful things that exists in this world. It is also one of the most mysterious. It reveals things in you for both the better and the worst. After being married for 2 ½ years I have been confronted with my own immaturity,  selfishness, unwillingness to sacrifice, & the little boy in me that wants his needs met before he does anything for anybody. Marriage has shown me how much growing as a man I need; there are too many little boys trying to wear grown man pants.

Over the last couple months I have been challenged by God to become a husband who is a grown man. Grown man? That’s such a mystery in our culture. What makes a grown man? When does a man become grown? Does being married make me a grown man?

Grown men are needed more than ever in our day & age. We need them to be husbands, fathers, friends, & leaders. A man is not a grown man because of age, title, offspring, job, resources, or physical strength. A man is a grown man when he can model the life of Jesus Christ to all around Him.

When the selflessness of Christ overtakes a man he enters into a deeper revelation of manhood. When the unconditional love of Jesus flows from a man then he takes a step into manhood. When the sense of responsibility that Jesus has for His church fills a man for his family, friends, wife, & kids then a man begins tasting manhood. Being a grown man is not an age thing, it is a heart thing, mind thing, emotional thing, spiritual thing, & living thing.

Grown men don’t seek to have their needs met by the people around them before they seek to meet those peoples’ needs. A grown man knows how to go to the Father on behalf of his friends, family, wife, kids, church, & community. He takes responsibility to provide for his family emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, & resourcefully, the way God takes responsibility in providing for His children. And, a grown man knows how to secure those around him, affirming them, calling out destiny in them, standing when they can’t, & declaring over them who they are even when they don’t see it.

I have heard many lament because they don’t believe there are many models out there for them. Or, they lament because maybe they have seen a man model what it means to be a good worker, but not a good husband or father. Grown manhood pervades every area of life & just because you haven’t seen it modeled right before you does not mean you are not responsible to set a new pattern for those following you. You want to see a grown man, look at Jesus & the way He interacts with His church; that is grown man status. Let Him be your model.

Let’s Do This Together:

Men – How have you been challenge to mature into manhood in the last month? What do you think has hindered you from maturing in the past?

Women – How would your life be different if the men around you where to live as grown men?