September 28, 2013

7 Easy Ways to Show You Care

Don't you hate talking to someone you know is not listening? When that happens it's easy to stop talking, get ready to erupt, check them, determine you're not gonna waste your time with them again, or do all four right? Don't be that person and don't waste your time with someone who is that person. No one likes talking to a wall; matter of fact, you will be called crazy if you consistently talk to one!

Here are 7 Easy Ways to Show You Care when someone is talking to you. Do them and watch your conversations thrive:

1. Look the Person in the Eye
It may seem old fashion, but it is one of the greatest things you could do demonstrate that you are fully present. If someone is talking to you look them in the eye throughout the conversation. Eye contact is intentional engagement.

2. Refuse to Let Your Mind Wander
Anyone could tell when you start drifting. Catch those thoughts and focus your brain power on the person in
front of you. You may have to do this 100 times in the conversation; it gets easy as you practice, trust me.

3. Nod with Affirmation
Don't be fake with this, it is obvious! However, the more you affirm what is being said verbally and with your body the more likely you are to remain engaged. You don't need to necessarily agree with what is being said, but agree that what is being said is important to you because the person is important to you.

4. Get Off Your Phone
Nothing tells a person more she is not important. When you are preoccupied with texting someone, checking a score, or looking at Facebook you are saying your space is already filled and the person talking to you can't get it.

5. Get Off Your Phone
When you're in a face to face conversation your phone is nothing more than a distraction and agent of dehumanization. By being on it while someone is talking to you is telling the person he does not matter.

6. Get Off Your Phone
When you pull your phone out in the middle of a conversation you just told the person, "Shut up!" or, "Keep talking, but I don't care what you're saying." When you don't care it will show.

7. Stay OFF Your Phone
Staying off your phone throughout a conversation demonstrates to the person in front of you she is the most important person to you at the moment. Your eyes are the window to your soul, by consistently letting them float from her face to a screen is the same as screaming, "I'm more passionate about a device then hearing your heart." Put the phone away and stay off.


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